One of the main ideas I like in life is to fail more. Fail more and faster at whatever it is you are working on. You need to fail. Outfail your friends! Outfail everyone. Every time you fail you learn new stuff. And we humans are very fast learners.
Just because most people are scared to fail it holds them back. So if you fail a lot you do something other people doesn’t wanna do. You become fearless and try everything to see what works. Now this is scarcity and creates value. Because there is a huge demand for innovation and people that test out new things.
Because here’s the thing. Even though you will fail a lot with this method you will also randomly run into success when you test lots of things all the time. It will make you very present to the moment.
One of my favourite laws in the universe is the law of large numbers or the law of averages. It means that eventually if you do something long enough you will get a ratio and can start to predict future success just by the amount of action you are taking.
Also you will not feel like “a failure” when you actually is expecting success. Richard Branson billionaire have said something about the main reason why he is a billionaire is because he has failed so much! The IBM guy said that the key to success is massive failure. Also what will happen is you will become like a kid again and see opportunities everywhere. Because now you can try out anything and the world becomes exciting again.
The other thing that I have talked about a lot also in the past is the importance of staying focused. And in today’s age that’s very hard. Because we very easily get distracted by things around us. Like friends/family/TV/News/Smartphone. Especially now with the smartphone age we have constant distractions around us 24/7!
What I recommend is that you create times during the day when you only focus. What has worked best for me is to do it in chunks. So focus for 90 minutes then take a break. Then do that a few more times. I think for maximum performance probably 3x90mins per day is good. You will need breaks to re-charge yourself. You can probably push it up to 5x90mins on extremely productive days. But I don’t think it’s good to do that for too much because it might burn you out.
But you will definitely have an edge in life if you can learn to turn off distractions and truly focus on your goal. Your RAS will help you to see new opportunity when you truly are focused on doing one task. Your adventure self will come to the surface! I recommend that you experiment around with cutting out distractions. Because in the future it will be even harder because virtual reality and better games will try to make you become an addict instead of doing something more productive.
One of my favourite things to analyse in life is what makes people happy. And based on my research it all comes down to present energy. You can think of the universe as made up by all these various energy sources. Some Negative and some Good. You want more of the good energy that moves you up in the world. The negative will pull you down. So how do you get more of this good energy?
The first thing you have to realise is how society operates on a deep unconscious zombie state. Most people at least 97% walk around their whole day without being present. And becoming present is one way of becoming conscious. So if you even manage to be present for 10 minutes more extra per day you are already ahead of most people. Present means to live in the moment and not have thoughts or emotions on the past or future.
If you identify yourself with your mind or emotions you become unconscious. You want to step in a mode of just being in the moment. Learn to honor the present moment. You have two illusions here showing up: The past which gives you an identity and the future which promises you some sort of fulfilment. But the only time you have is the current moment. It’s very tempting to want to think about time but it’s almost better if you pretend time doesn’t exist and focus on the only thing you have which is the now moment.
A good practice is just to observe your mind and emotions with presence. When you realise you aren’t present that is when you have become present. Self-observation is amazing! Realise you are not your mind or emotions. Just the observer of them when they come and go. Don’t judge the thoughts or emotions just observe. The mind has a great purpose but for most people it completely take over their whole life. And then you start to believe that you are the mind.
If you want to achieve true change then you have to enter the now. Or else you will most often just see minor changes. But nothing magical in change. You will also be able if you analyse your life closer see that you probably are walking around in circles. This happens when you become unconscious. The good thing with living in the now is how it free’s you from all negative feelings about worries about the future or the past.
I also think it’s truly important to be obsessed about making this into a reality. Being obsessed by having a deep focus at it by tracking it everyday. Something you don’t do everyday shows you aren’t serious about it. And you really need to build a habit of being present everyday in your life. If you are obsessed and track your progress daily then you will build up amazing self-confidence. Most of our confidence issues comes because we have never accomplished anything in our life’s. If you obsess and truly create true habits then you will gain in self-confidence and learn that you can actually finish large stuff and improve.
You don’t fix problems in life with more problems you fix them with an obsession to success. And finding out what truly works. Learn from people that are 10 years ahead of you and have more life experience. Learn from people that are above and better than you. But also look at their personality and consider if that is something you want to become.
Remove the foot from the brake and step on the accelerator regardless of your past. “Play it Safe” is not safe. Bad things will happen no matter what. So you might as well go all in to obsession towards success. We are usually extremely scared of finding out how much we truly are capable of doing. But studying presence and doing it everyday will remove your worries. Most of your work will not be magical. But by doing a lot of valuable work eventually you will bump into stuff and create gold. Especially if you create a habit of doing work everyday no matter what. Work that matters and moves you forward.
Also remember that anything worth doing will be hard. Especially when it comes to building a business or something similar. Anything new you start like a project or something with yourself will be easy in the beginning and you will see great progress. But then a dip comes in where you have to do the real work. Lots of work without any instant reward. This is where most people quit. The good thing here is you want people to quit. Because this produces scarcity and makes your business most valuable.
Now I mainly talk if you build or do something with lots of competition. The dip will keep others from competing with you. But only start something that you know you can get over the dip. Or it will be a waste of time. Most people start things and then they quit. Which is a major waste of time and energy. Stick to things in life or don’t even start them.
Here are some Great Books if you want to study how to live more in the present Moment:
The law of averages is one of my favourite laws in the entire universe. Of course there are many interesting built in laws that has been proven for thousands of years to work. This is my favourite. What does it mean?
It means that if you do something often enough eventually a pattern will emerge. And you can get detailed statistics on how much you need to do something to get a certain result.
But you need to gather a ton of data first. If you do something 100 times many times you can then from that calculate the success from that. And if you do that action another 100 times you will usually get a similar result. The more data you collect the more accurate stats you will get.
Of course it can differ a lot depending on season and timing and circumstances. But if you take a logical approach here then you will see that if you just keep taking action you will eventually get some kind of result from that. But this means that you cannot stop in the middle. You have to keep going forever. Faith that things will work out!
You also may have a bad run that last a long time. But the law of average tells that if you keep being persistent then eventually you will break through in whatever you do. It’s amazing how action taking actually solves 99% of the issues we have. And people do anything to avoid taking proper action that needs to be taken. People are always looking for some magic pill or magic shortcut.
There is none! Also do remember that you don’t want fast results and fast success. Because that will leave you just as fast. Slow progress is what you want. It is slow but it’s also real. It won’t leave you the next second you look away.
Do not try to beat this law. It’s a law for a reason. Just keep sowing. You will reap what you sow. Sometimes you will put in long hours and you will get 0 results from your work. Remember the law of averages.
Also don’t try to make this big thing that will change everything. It won’t. Keep the steady daily action just. You want to discipline your disappointment. Have low expectations. And trust me if you just keep taking action and sometimes adjust yourself for improvement by feedback you get then success is inevitable. The low expectations is awesome to keep in mind. Because even when you get a normal win you will be really satisfied.
Do not neglect things in your life. Take care of things that you want to keep in your life. Or it will go elsewhere. It’s easy to neglect proper care because there is no mega evolutionary pressure for us to care for things. Our body just want to keep us alive it doesn’t care about our dreams. So we have to put evolutionary pressure on to ourself!
There are many dangers as we step inside this new digital age. Even though we have access to more information than ever before what could start to happen is a internet filtering system that only feeds us same stuff all the same time instead of expanding our minds. This is something that already goes on with Facebook and YouTube. You don’t see all the latest updates that you want to see. The algorithm on these services decides what it thinks is best for you. The robot controls what you see. This is in a way very scary.
Because what happens is you can get a distorted view of reality. Always remember when you are on the internet that the people that for example comments on a post they are not the average person watching that content usually. The major majority is silent and do just consume. But we don’t many times think about these people. We mostly just think about the commenters as the ones who care about our work. But many times you have many that care but you will never know who they are because they usually never see a need to post a comment.
The whole idea in the beginning with the internet was that it would expand our minds. But what mostly seem to happen is that people stick to their groups and do not want to go beyond it. So you are having humans creating villages online. So internet can actually make many people more close-minded. This global access to all humans on earth is very new and strange. Humans don’t really know how they should use it.
We are living in big times of change. Which will confuse a lot of people when we go forward in the digital age. Most 40 year olds their life is in real world. Most 20 year olds their whole life is online. So you have two different worlds that is being created. Deep changes like this will register a lot of fear in people who do not like change. But remember that change is the only constant in the universe. Life is always shifting and moving around.
Many people shut down their potential these days out of fear. The internet is like this magical thing that could show you anything you want. You could either find amazing stuff on it or horrible. It’s up to you to learn to master this internet thing. There is more potential out there than ever before. People you can connect with that will create limitless opportunities. But it’s up to you to take action and start moving in that direction.
There is a lot of dangers with this time as well. Because a lot of distractions that exists on the internet. Everyone is fighting for your attention. One click online usually result in minutes or hours of your life just being swallowed up. The key for you is to learn to master Focus and Discipline. That’s how you can win in this Age of Distraction era that we live in. Every single extra second you can put on Focus will help you so much.
Also remember whenever you start to do something new the start is always the hard part. Once you are in flow it’s easy. It doesn’t require that much extra energy while you are already doing something. It’s usually called MOMENTUM. This is something you can take advantage of in work. Once you are in the flow of work get 5 things done fast instead of taking a break between each thing that you finish. Because every time you take a break you create a big block that can result in minutes or hours being wasted on nonsense.
Something that I have done on my phone is to disable all the notifications. It’s just a distraction. Another thing I have is to rarely use social media. Most of it is as well a distraction. We also live in the age of sharing other peoples content. So few people create their own original content these days! It’s a disaster. Especially when you consider you have the best tool in the whole world for creating unique original content. I am talking of course about your brain.
The limitless ideas you can create with your brain is just madness. It’s like it’s expanding like the universe the more knowledge and action you feed it. For every stone that you flip over you find three more stones below it! You just have to keep feeding your brain with new stimulation and take action. As long as you keep doing that you can keep creating anything.
We usually get into this block in our life when we take little action and get poor result because of it. So it creates a negative downward spiral. Most of these problems can be solved with the 10X rule. Take 10X as much action as everyone else. And you will surely see better results! And the better results you get the more you see it works and it creates an upward spiral o awesomeness in your life!
You see the thing that you are scared of is just getting into a habit of doing something regularly. Once you are in it you are really fine. Life is good. I have seen it takes 66 days to form a new habit. You have to re-wire your brain. And it doesn’t happen fast. Also don’t try to create multiple strong habits at the same time. Because that will usually make it so you won’t stick to anything eventually. Be modest and humble. And realise that the journey is what is the fun part. The destination is just there to give you a direction. But it’s the process that you will start to love. The process is your life.
The internet these days can become an even larger distraction than in the past because these days everyone is addicted to their phone. And phones are always closer to you than computers because most usually carries their phone in their hand or pocket. So it’s a potential constant distraction that you carry with you all the time. So turn off the notifications is a great idea.
Other things I highly recommend is to not consume without production. So this is a good rule. It’s perfectly fine to consume! But only consume after you have created something of value. Or else you will become a value leech. And nobody likes a person like that. Remember that generating value is not that hard. After some time your need to consume will go down. You will realise that it mostly just was a distraction away from your most important task in your life.
We humans have a great fear about realising how super limitless we actually are. We are afraid of what or social group or family might think. But I believe that if you feel a fire deep inside of you to do something then you are suppose to follow that path with heart! Because following your heart if you ask me must be the only true way forward.
But just consider this for a second. If you do become limitless and maybe your friends or family might think you are weird just imagine the amount of good you can do in the world. The amount of peoples life’s that you can touch. You can touch millions or even billions of peoples life’s by being 100% your fullest potential. You can actually make a massive difference in the world. I believe we need more people like this in the world. More amazing and unique people. Less vanity and more creativity. Less sheeps and more originals.
Also remember with the internet you can try stuff out with little risk of losing something. Many times you don’t even have to show your face. But can operate in a safer way. And fully express yourself. Back in the days you had to invest more energy and effort in the physical world to get stuff done. Now with the internet things have gotten way easier and there is potential for you to exploit it. To become a master in your field. If you can see pass all the vanity and see what truly matters. Knowledge and Truth.
When you observe the world and paying more attention to what is going on around you then you will see the most amazing things. Then you will truly see how amazing this new technology we have is. But you have to wake up first. And realise it. You can’t walk around sleepwalking the rest of your life. Will it be scary to wake up? Yes. But think about the rewards. Most people are stuck in distraction and sensory pleasure. This is causing them to walk around mostly in a zombie state derping. Instead of living their true potential and dreams. It’s a weird realisation when you discover you can have anything you want in the world. If you are willing to work for it.
Today I wanna talk about a major thing in life. Being engaged in doing work.
Most people walk around derping and are disengaged from the activity they are involved in. It’s so easy to make it into a habit to be unfocused and become disengaged. It’s so easy to lower your standards and not try harder.
So you need to take deep focus engagement very seriously if you wanna reach great goals in life. It’s important to be engaged because it translates into so many other areas of your life. Everything is all connected. Creating 1 strong habit many times lead to more good habits. Everything blends together. Letting a little bit of laziness creep into your life usually spreads fast to other areas of your life. Because in the modern world it’s so easy to just chill and relax and not remain super focused on the activity you are doing.
Life works in a Pyramid and to reach high in life in an area you like then it requires more and more focus the higher up you go. Because there are less at the top so you need to find something you love and have daily passion about and focus with intensity and engaging everyday on it to reach high.
Of course this is way easier when you know more clearly what makes you super excited everyday. And when you have sorted out your goals/dreams and vision statement in life. Because the majority is at the bottom of the Pyramid and it’s so easy to fall down to that level and maybe work for someone else your whole life. Which puts you into a limited position in what you can do in life.
The level of apathy that you get conditioned with everyday is at such an intense level that it will try to hammer you to not take action. People have many different agendas and goals.
If you are passive that serves other people’s interest that wants to make money on passive people consuming content. Be a creator and producer more then you are a consumer.
A good way to live life and take control over it in this phone age is don’t consume if you haven’t produced anything. If you want to consume fine. But at least produce something of value first. Mostly you will realise that you get way more joy out of producing than consuming. 2 people in this world: Takers and Givers. You wanna be on Giver side. Takers are too much value leechers. They train themselves to have to rely on others.
Your produce output should be so high in this abundant universe.
So you want to continue to focus to be against and fight against apathy and passivity. It’s because you are alive you should be active and moving and producing and creating stuff. It’s a way of life! An interesting way to put this and how to guide your life is that you care more than anybody and that you care less than anybody. Most engaged but least attached to an outcome.
There are some traps that could stop your progress and that is decision making fatigue, persona fatigue and self judgement fatigue. These 3 can mess you up a lot.
Decision making fatigue is when you sit and think a lot if you should do a certain task or not. It actually burns a ton of willpower energy. You would be better off just do anything in that moment. Than sit and burn energy on thinking about it. So just do it! You gain energy by doing faster decisions and can get into a momentum by doing it!
Persona fatigue is when you try to be someone that you are not. You won’t get as tired if you are just yourself.
Self judgement fatigue is when we constantly judge ourself instead of keep going. We burn ourself out by trying to do something perfect. When we should just ship the damn product as Seth Godin would say.
We are humans so we cannot make perfect stuff. Life is messy and making progress is messy. Also don’t be attached to how good the end result will be. Don’t panic so much about it because it will just burn energy. Just get the job done within the timeframe that you have.
The most enlightened thing you can do in life is to engage in life. And try to do it at maximum levels. Even down to maybe cleaning a room. While you do something always do it with maximum engaged level and this will require you to live your life so you can have lots of focus to do this task.
The reason why it’s important to detach from outcome is because we all will die one day, things are constantly changing and shifting in the universe. We think we can own something but all we have is just things we borrow for the moment while we are alive. Then it goes away to someone else in another time period. Also detaching makes you feel more free. That it doesn’t really matter that much what you do in life. If you succeed or not. Doesn’t really make any difference in a larger time period of the universe. Most things will be forgotten.
But while you are alive the nicest feeling is to be deeply present inside of an activity. We aren’t designed to be passive humans. We have a human consciousness so we can do things in life with a present awareness. Compared to animals who doesn’t have that ability.
Most of our thoughts we think are our own ones. But most of the time it’s just other peoples stuff they have put inside our heads and now we think it was our original thoughts. We humans are sponges very easily affected by people in our environment. And biological impulses that fires off inside of our brain.
Most of the moments in your life you will not remember. Your mind will only remember a few moments in your life the other things will be a blur. This is why attachment is so pointless in life because most things won’t be remembered anyway. So living in the present moment and be engaged is the thing that always is real and now. And what you want to strive towards. And the present moment you can always reach.
And if you think about not doing the 3 fatigues above then you will have an easier time to kick yourself into engaged mode. Of course you can go much deeper into this topic but here was just a few thoughts about this topic. Let me know if you want to hear more about this!
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