Never in life beat yourself up for the result you get after taking a certain action. But beat yourself up for the process if you fail to execute on the process you know produces results. The end result of a certain days actions we have no idea what it will be. But the process that produces results we have full control over. And we need to learn how to master it.
What made you start to fail?
You have to find your built in habits that is causing failure in your life and making it harder to follow the process that produces results. Some of the common things that can have a massive change is diet, sleep and limit too much pleasure. To learn a new process and to implement it in your life it will require months of focus on that process to wire it into your brain. And then when it’s in there you could start working on another process you know produces results. Eventually you wanna have a full system of processes that you have found to be the best to produce results and stick to them everyday.
Life will continue to test you in every second you are trying to do something. You just gotta remember that the hard part with most processes is just the beginning. Actually be inside of the process is usually not that hard. It can be extremely enjoyable once you get into a FLOW state of it. That state puts you into the present moment with deep attention and focus.
The process of becoming a mature adult is a bit more painful but the rewards are so much bigger. But most are very lazy in this world and wanna take the easy way out. You wanna work hard and get what you deserve from that work. Many people do work hard but they work for someone else so in that position they are in a limited position. You have to work first to remove yourself from that limited position.
There is a great book out about this process activity how you can get more into a flow and a nice routine where your life just goes smooth and exactly in the direction you want it. The book is by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi and it’s called Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience. Here is quote from the book about what can be enjoyable:
Basically what it means and he’s saying now especially in the age of the internet is that to get into flow you have to concentrate and focus on the task. And not get distracted as easily by all the things we have around ourself. All the temptations that tells us it will give us flow and fun but won’t.
He also gave another great quote here and some good things to keep in mind when you wanna get into a nice flow state:
Many people do set goals but they are boring. So it doesn’t produce any excitement to actually start doing them if they think they will only improve life by 10%. But 1000% improvement goals now finally it brings motivation to start something new!
I will give you great book recommendations in the future on the topic of my top self improvement book list.
Knowledge is important. When someone is writing a book many times they are doing it when they are in their highest state. So they give you the pearls of their knowledge. That will help you save time and energy to go out and try things yourself. It saves time and energy to learn from someone smart what to do and what to avoid. By being a simulator of the future.
The Stoics said some very smart things. And they had this great trick that is working very nicely when you wanna get more of something in life. It works in the way that whatever you have right you now you practice yourself to be super grateful that you have what you have. So you get a feeling of being content. So you don’t feel a need for more.
The funny thing with this is it always gives you more from this sort of thinking. Because you come from a place of abundance. I have been reading more classical ancient knowledge lately and have found great books about ancient Greece and the Roman Empire.
Here is a good book about the Stoics by William B. Irvine. It’s called A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy. Here is a great quote from the book about appreciating what you have:
Seneca also had a more scarier practice and that was to think about negative things that might be happening. Of course this one is a bit more scarier to do. Because it might bring up unpleasant thought or emotions:
Musonius had an even more extreme way to do this. I have tested this myself by staying away from pleasure and it for sure is an interesting thing to do. You really start to appreciate more what you have and the simple things in life:
So in a way by focusing more in life on the process than the results. It’s sort of like you want to see yourself as a robot when you are making yourself warm up to do the process. Stop using too much thoughts and emotions and just go into robot mode and do what you know produce results. After some minutes you usually start to enjoy something and you feel like a human again and your creativity starts to kick in and flow!
Results will follow of course when you are focusing on a process you know will produce result. Even when the results are low you know you can tweak the process to get better results. Because we are all humans with a brain that means if we master our mental side then we can become millionaires or even billionaires by using processes other successful people used to get to that point. We need to study their works and learn from it. And then apply it into our own lives.
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